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| It sounds crazy, but family and relationship issues can be difficult subjects to talk about with the people they affect most β those closest to us. Below you'll find answers to some of the more frequently asked questions about staying close after ostomy surgery. |
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| I am worried my own family will not know how to deal with me now that I have a stoma. What should I do? |
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| How do I tell my children about the stoma? |
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| I am worried my pouch changing schedule will interfere with the rest of the people in my house. Any suggestions for me? |
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| I am interested in pursuing a new intimate relationship with someone and they have no idea I have a stoma. What should I do? |
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I am worried my own family will not know how to deal with me now that I have a stoma. What should I do?
One of the first things to consider talking about with close family β particularly those sharing the same home β is that although the surgery is over, recovery takes time, and it can be a while before relative normality is restored. Some allowances will need to be made for this. Take it one step at a time and let your family know your goals.
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How do I tell my children about the stoma?
How much or how little they are told and whether or not you show the stoma to them really depends on how the family interacted before surgery and also how old the children are. All children have questions and will more than likely want to ask them. They will want to know the reason for the operation and what has happened. Honest and simple explanations are both important.
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I am worried my pouch changing schedule will interfere with the rest of the people in my house. Any suggestions for me?
Select a time when there will be peace and quiet in the bathroom or toilet. Make sure that everyone in the home knows that these areas may be busy for a certain period, and that this is extremely important. Knowing the right time to change your pouch will take a little practice.
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I am interested in pursuing a new intimate relationship with someone and they have no idea I have a stoma. What should I do?
If you are single and meeting someone with the idea of marriage or a sexual relationship, the stoma will not remain invisible, so be prepared to talk about it openly and honestly. Honesty, particularly in this matter would be the best policy. Itβs always possible that a prospective partner might not want to continue the relationship when he or she learns about your stoma. This is the kind of experience no one wants. If it happens, remind yourself that people without stomas are rejected for all kinds of reasons as well. In fact, if a potential partner loses interest, it may not be because of your stoma at all.
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